Reasons people cheat
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Cheating can be very detrimental and damaging to any relationship as it can break down the trust, honesty, and respect that both parties have built over time. And though it is important to recognize the warning signs that your man may be cheating on you, like him acting out of character and desperately wanting his privacy, it’s equally important to understand the underlying reasons why men are unfaithful in the first place.

Research shows that there is a one in four chance that cheating may occur, so it’s very important to shed some light on the real reasons people cheat.


One of the main reasons why men cheat is simply a matter of immaturity. A mature person usually thinks of the longterm consequences of his/her actions. People who are immature usually put themselves first in most situations and do not take into consideration their partner’s feelings. It is also a sure sign of irrespponsibility and lack of self control due to giving in to temptations without a moment’s thought or care for the repercussions of their actions.

With this in mind, it’s not too surprising that low level of maturity is an underlying factor behind being unfaithful, since immature people often lack the sophistication, empathy, and sense of responsibility that would inhibit them from cheating on their partner.

Their Emotional Needs Aren’t Being Met

This may sound strange but it is sometimes true. 50% of the men who cheat do so because they feel emotionally unfulfilled and are very unhappy with their relationship. Not in terms of sex, but purely emotional. Men usually love to feel valued and emotional supported (don’t use the status quo to judge) and sometimes tend to go searching for it elsewhere if they can’t get it from their significant other. And most times, they end up cheating with the person they feel they have a stronger emotional connection with; someone who they can tell their most emotional stories without getting judged for being too emotional.


Lack of Sexual Fulfilment

A lack of sexual fulfilment is one of the major reasons why people cheat. Sexual satisfaction goes a long way in keeping a relationship and the spark alive. so if oneyour partner feels like he/she isn’t getting satisfied, then it’s either time to spice things up in the bedroom or be a little bit more adventurous. No one wants to go looking elsewhere to get his/her sexual needs met when you are right there at home.

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Another key reason behind why people cheating is because of their personal insecurities. A person with loow self esteem may feel unworthy of being with their partner, and the constant worrying of his/her partner’s level of interest can drive one to find support, reassurance, and approval from someone else who they feel wouldn’t have to worry about his/her level of commitment.

In a word, lack of confidence ends up destroying the very foundation of the relationship he/she’s worried about losing.

The Person Has A Big Ego

As insecure men are likely to cheat, so also are men with big egos. Egomaniacs always believe the world revolves around them and they also believe they can replace someone they value (or do not value) easily. So cheating comes easy to these people as easy as it takes politicians to siphon money in this country.. In other words, narcissistic people who believe their needs should always take precedence over the needs of others are more likely to seek satisfaction, praise, and attention outside of their relationship.

They Had A Cheating Parent

Sad, but true. Some cheaters actually learnt from watching their parent(s) do the same thing over time, and this becomes somewhat of an inbred talent more than anything else. A lot of children look up to their parents as role models and literally model whatever their parent does, so it’s no surprise that many cheaters today had cheating parents growing up.

Peer Pressure

A lot of people usually end up cheating on their lovers if their friends are cheaters, or if they were pressured into doing it. Research has found that over 75 percent of men who cheat have a close friend who also cheated. And for these men, cheating becomes one more shared experience that they can bond over, as they have a mutual understanding and similar view on cheating, which enables them to openly discuss it without judgment.

He/She is Being Cheated On

Newton’s third law of motion comes to mind in this case, “for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.”
A lot of people cheat not because of any of the previously mentioned reasons, but simple because they want to get revenge for getting cheated on by their partners. It is a way, the cheated feels they can get some power, control and feelings over their current state of unrest due to being cheated on.

They Are Worried about Their Sexual Performance

While it may seem counter-intuitive, men who have anxiety about their sexual abilities are actually more likely to cheat on their partner. In fact, researchers from Indiana University’s Center for Sexual Health Promotion, The Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, and Reproduction, as well as the University of Guelph in Ontario found that men who had sexual performance issues had a greater likelihood of being unfaithful.

One explanation for this seemingly conflicting result is that men are less inhibited when they’re with someone who isn’t their partner, and they tend to feel less nervous, worried, and concerned about their performance with this new person. Along these lines, another explanation is that cheating provides men with the opportunity to be with someone who isn’t aware of their past sexual performance issues, and being with this new person can actually help to lower the pressure to perform and please this new person. It’s also thought that men with sexual performance problems cheat in order to help themselves overcome these sexual issues in an environment that’s free of the judgment, ridicule, and/or embarrassment they may feel when they’re with their partner.


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